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Paying Back Credit Card Debt With an RRSP Loan

Because I’ve never been in a position where an RRSP loan made a lot of sense I never considered all that many financial strategies that were associated with them.  This led to a bit of a surprise last week when one my friends (we’ll call him “John” to keep it anonymous) called and asked for my opinion on a somewhat unique financial move he had read about and was thinking would work out well for him.

Before we get to John’s RRSP loan strategy, I’ll give you a bit of background on his situation.  He readily admits that he wishes he had pay more attention to his finances a little earlier in life, but as a kid his parents didn’t have a lot of money and they absolutely never talked about how to manage any.  Coming out of high school, because his parents’ income was quite low, he was able to receive large student loans – which he took advantage of like most 18-year olds out there.  After four years of post-secondary John had developed some really bad spending habits.  He worked hard in the summers and made a lot more than the average student did, but he also spent a ton of money.

He graduated with slightly higher-than-average student debt and a few thousand dollars’ worth of credit card debt.  He didn’t expect this to be a problem since he had graduated from a unique program that allowed him to attain both a university degree and a college diploma in that four year span – and he naturally believed this would allow him to land a great job.  The problem was that the field he had chosen – journalism – had some really terrible job prospects (and still does today).  John knew he had to pay his dues and get some hard-fought experience within the industry, so he took every minimum wage job he could find in media and worked multiple serving jobs on the side to pay the bills.  Of course because he still hadn’t learned anything about money, and had those negative spending habits to contend with, he continued to pile on credit card debt.  This sort of spiral continued for a couple of years.

They All Lived Happily Ever-After

High FeesThankfully, this story has a happy ending.  John caught on to a great job with a provincial government (after several months of total unemployment) where he could put his media skills to use “from the other side of the fence”.  He is now 29-years old and is making roughly 70K a year.  A couple years ago when John landed his current job and felt like he finally had his head above water he began to talk to me about his financial situation and ask for help a little at a time.  We talked about some budgeting basics and consolidating the staggering amount of credit card debt he had accumulated into a low-interest loan.  Even after that step, he still owed over 20K on a LOC locked in at 11% (due to his bad credit rating this is the best loan he could secure) and a decent-sized student loan. Continue Reading →

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Career versus Family: Do We Have to Choose?

As I get closer and closer to the ripe (haha) old age of 30, I am feeling my biological clock starting to tick.  So  many big life decisions come into play at this point (not that I am in a relationship right now but I see all my friends getting married and having little mini-”thems” so I can’t help but think about this).

For my female readers who are the same age (or maybe older than me), please stop reading because the following neurotic information will probably make you worried.  If you continue reading, please release all liability to me for ruining your day and making your biological clock tick even more. Women around the world (well predominantly North America) are delaying childbirth longer and longer.  For many reasons, including financial reasons, wanting to establish their career (I am one of them) before they have children, and because many don’t feel ready (hello? responsibility? Yuck!).
Biologically, there are many reasons why a woman would want to start having children before the age of 35 according to Baby Center.

  • Fertility rates decline after the age of 30
  • They decline even more after the age of 35
  • Rates of miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy are higher
  • Increased risk of having a child with chromosomal abnormalities
  • Its much more difficult to give birth as an older mom
  • Women delaying first childbirth to between ages of 35 to 40 have a higher risk of breast cancer

parenting or career

Now that I’ve scared you silly, lets talk about women having a career versus family. Continue Reading →

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Is Someone as Frugal as You a Turn On or a Turn Off?

As I foray into the dating world (well, not really, but kind of) I have been meeting different types of guys.  I didn’t know that there were guys who were out there and were as passionate about saving money and finding deals as I was.  I mean, I do because everyone who posts on Red Flag Deals is probably a deal junkie, but I guess in my last relationship, I felt quite proud that I was good at that.  You know, it was like my niche.  I was the cool girl (not so cool, really) who loved a bargain and who found good bargains.  My ex-boyfriend wasn’t really into bargain hunting or saving money and left it up to me to do all the research and stuff.  I really liked knowing that I found a good deal.  I felt proud of it.  It’s my thing!

Enter a new guy that I am seeing.  He knows how to score a good bargain and seems to be even better than it than I am (I know, like whhhhatttttt??).  He buys most things online (down to…towels) because they are cheaper and he picks them up from the states.  He is probably more frugal than me.

Does it go back to Values?

I know having the same views on money is very important, since the number one reason of divorce is due to money.  Couples fight about money, especially when you have different spending styles.  One saves, one spends and then people in the relationship end up lying to each other about their purchases.  Couples also fight about who gets to control the money or the purse strings.

AdviceI’m not sure why it’s such a taboo subject and such a difficult subject to talk to your significant other about, but perhaps it goes back to the fact that money is all about the manifestations of our own values.  Money doesn’t buy you happiness, but it can buy you a lot of stuff, vacations, adventures, and other intangible and tangible experiences. Continue Reading →

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