Now that Valentine’s Day has come and gone, I would like to delve into the very unromantic subject of Cohabitation Agreements. Last month, I talked about whether living together before marriage will save you money. In Canada, most people would assume (well, I did, anyway!) that if you live common law, you are entitled to the same property rights and division of assets the same as if you were married. If a marriage breaks up, one generally speaking is entitled to 50% of the others’ assets under the Family Relations Act. Everything is split 50/50 equally. For common law, I thought that if you lived, let’s say, 2 years together and somehow things really just don’t work out, you would be entitled to 50% of each other’s assets, right? WRONG. The justice system doesn’t treat it like that.
Now I’m not a family lawyer or anything, but the Canadian family law system tells us that for common law arrangements, if you don’t have documentation or a paper trail that you have contributed to rent or a mortgage (or if your name isn’t even on the title of the home), you’re really sh*t out of luck. You’ll get none of it. Zilch. Nada.
So when you move in together, it’s really important to either a) keep all your receipts and make sure that if you’re paying into the mortgage, that your name is on the mortgage and b) you have a good sit down talk about your assets and what you want to do with them in case you break up.
I know talking about the possibility of breaking up is about as romantic as dissecting a cow’s eyeball in Biology lab (mmm formaldehyde, anyone?), but it’s necessary to at least get a sense of what you both want to do if you are faced with a break up.
I have an acquantance who was living common law for about 7 years with her boyfriend, and she bought an investment condo on her own and it needed fixing up. Her boyfriend offered to help her and he voluntarily fixed up her place really nicely. Things didn’t pan out a few years down the road (she broke up with him) and she thought everything would be simple after the break up. Boy, was she wrong! In court (maybe out of spite, I don’t know), he showed each and every receipt he saved from the renovations he did on her condo, and added in the labour costs, and it added up to a nice sum of $40,000. She did NOT have $40,000 just sitting in the bank, so she was forced to sell her investment condo to come up with the capital to pay him. She did NOT know that he kept every single receipt and that it would bite her in the behind in the future.
So, a Cohabitation Agreement (though it can be pricey because you need a lawyer from both parties to witness it) can save you some money in the long run, should you ever break up (knock on wood). Cohabitation Agreements can show that you want the same rights as married couples (that is, split 50/50)- though on the flip side of the coin, you probably don’t want to be picking up their baggage, if they have any (*ahem* DEBT). They can also help you protect any assets that you may have (e.g. inheritance, a previous property) if your angry ex-partner somehow proves that they have claim in your assets. They are useful tools to have BEFORE or shortly after you start living together. Just to keep things clear.
Sorry for bursting everyone’s bubble. I’m being a real Debbie Downer, but I think it’s some food for thought. Most people don’t get Cohabitation Agreements or even Pre-nuptuals. I guess it’s kind of taboo and unromantic.
What do you think? Are common law partnerships treated differently elsewhere (e.g. United States, Australia)? Please share!
Tags: cohabitation agreement, common law, property


Here in the U.S., every state is different when it comes to common law/cohabitation laws. In my state, New Jersey, we don’t have common law — makes me wonder if there are any rules/regulations governing cohabitation and the aftereffects.
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@RainyDaySaver Wow, New Jersey doesn’t have common law? That’s interesting…but there’s probably lots of couples living common law in New Jersey, though, right? I wonder how couples who break up would deal with division of assets…
Common Law was abolished in my state, Pennsylvania, on 1/1/2005. Even if you were common law married (held yourself out as husband and wife, filed taxes jointly…) and broke up you still had to file for a “regular” divorce.
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Rainy Day is correct. It depends on what state you live in. In NY, you are considered to be in a common law partnership if you live together with someone for 7 years, even though NY isn’t a common law “state” per se. So, pretty much, it’s just better to get married in NY than to risk being together for a while and having it all end messily.
@SAHMCFO Hmm it seems like in a lot of the United States, common law doesn’t sound like it’s recognized.
@Investing Newbie 7 years?? That’s a long time to be considered common law…some people don’t even stay married for that long! Yeah, might as well get married, huh? Here in Canada it is 1 year of cohabitation= common law for taxation purposes.
Thanks for all your input- it’s nice to see differences and similarities between states and provinces!
You’re right – In Canada, if a couple is considered to be common-law and things deteriorate and a breakup ensues, the situation is not the same as being married, and in most cases it ends up being a far cry from a 50/50 split on assets. I also think each of the provinces have subtle variations of the law and can vary somewhat depending on where one resides.
With that being said, from a personal standpoint, I think a couple could end up in a worse situation if they decide to get married before having the experience of living with each other. It’s one thing to go each one’s separate ways while being common law, but you’d be surprised how many people go out and spend a bucket of cash on a wedding and new home only to realize when they start living with each other that they despise one another and aren’t compatible!
That’s when it can get really nasty from a financial perspective!
Nice post
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@The Rat- Yes- I think I’ve come to the consensus that I would rather see if I can stand the other person before I dump a bucketload of cash on a wedding! (At the going rate these days, that’s $15000+) How did you and Mrs. Rat do it? Did you co-habitate beforehand?
Oops, I think I messed up my other comment. Here it goes again.
We have the same common law thing in California after 7 years. My question is: does the law kick in at the start of the 8th year for things to be split if things don’t work out, or does it go retroactive?
i.e. I buy a $1mil house cash in year 1. GF moves in yr 4, and lives with me for 7 years. Am I supposed to give her half if we break up?
That’s a brutal story you told!
Cheers,
Sam
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@Samurai- I did some research and it says that California doesn’t recognize common law marriages (since 1895). These are the states that recognize common law marriages:
STATES THAT RECOGNIZE COMMON LAW MARRIAGE:
Only a few states recognize common law marriages (living together >7 years) AND you’ll need to have certain requirements to prove that you are ‘common law married’. You’ll need to INTEND to get married, call each other husband or wife/ share the same last name, or have joint accounts. AND both parties must not be minors (haha, ewww… the thought of common law with a minor!!) If you both intend to live common law and not ever get married, then in the event you break up, you will not have to go through a divorce like married people do.
Alabama
Colorado
Georgia
Idaho
Iowa
Kansas
Montana
New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
Ohio
Oklahoma
Pennsylvania
Rhode Island
South Carolina
Texas
Utah
Washington, D.C.
Here’s where I got that summary from
Hope that helps, and I think the answer to your question is that it will retroactive.. Now if you were common law in these above states and MOVED to California, then they will recognize the common law marriage. I think as long as you’ve been together 7 years, you have the same rights as married couples do, BUT you have to INTEND to get married. Not just be living together.
Wow, this is so interesting! Canadian and American laws in regards to common law are really quite different!
Hmmm, very interesting! I coulda sworn CA would have something like this, since we are so progressive in our ways (we banned smoking in public places first I believe).
Thnx!
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American Law here in the U.S.A has it that a couple living under one roof for more than 7 years is considered married.
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Scary stuff. I have to say that I was not smart when I was younger and living with my ex boyfriend, just really lucky! When I moved out, I decided to leave the country. He looked over the stuff we’d bought together, divided the cost by two and sent me a check. Seriously, it didn’t work out, but he was a nice guy. I probably would have just ditched the stuff if he hadn’t been willing to buy me out as I was leaving the country anyhow. . .
Breaking up sucks, I’m getting depressed thinking about it even now years later and happily married. The only thing that sucks more than a breakup is a breakup plus nasty financial troubles!
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Wow- your ex boyfriend did sound like a nice guy! Not nice enough to be your future husband, of course, but decent to have split it up without any issues. Yeah, breaking up already sucks AND when you add financial issues with that, it just makes breaking up 100x worse and nasty. Glad that you’re happily married now =)
I definitely would want to be married before buying a house together. I’m pretty sure you only have to live together for a couple of years to get the 50/50 split here, though.
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@eemusings thanks for stopping by =) Yeah, wonder how it all works in New Zealand?
Young and Thifty,
Thanks for debunking the urban myths on this. I learned something. No longer can I freak people out with the 50-50 commonlaw split thing. Unless, of course, I want to be mischievous.
Thanks!
Andrew
@Andrew Hallam Thanks for visiting =) No problem, it was my pleasure- I believed that urban myth too (maybe it’s like some kind of Canadian urban myth?!).
To be fair, the boyfriend DID contribute to the value of the house. And he had the documentation to prove it. But this just goes to show how important it is to be very clear on financial obligations in a relationship.
Thanks for visiting WellHeeled! Even though it’s very unsexy to talk about finances, they are an integral part of the “teamwork” between partners.
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been living common-law almost 27 years , we own our home and vehicles and actually are seeing our lawyer tuesday to sign wills and power of attorneys
My name is not on the deed as yet but we are covering all the bases. I;m in Ontario by the way
@Sable211- Wow- good for you for covering the bases! Yeah the cohabitation laws seem a bit different in each province. Good luck with the lawyer next week. =)