What does this mean to you… “Delaying the real world”?
Let’s presume that it means you want to be an eternal student, right? You don’t want to get a job for whatever reason or reasons. Perhaps you feel you’re not ready to take on the responsibilities of the “real world”. Job, career, relationship, marriage, kids, expensive cars, big houses, two holidays abroad each year, big credit card debt, mortgage for 25 years.
Hmmm… don’t know about you but I think the eternal student option seems much more enjoyable and much more realistic! Not only more enjoyable but more healthy too – from a lack of stress point of view. I mean, come on – who wants all that material wealth stuff, right? Sure, it sounds good. Its what everyone thinks they want, right?
The material wealth is what we are educated in society to want more than anything else in the world. And why? Because, we are told – by those who claim to know better than we do – that money brings happiness and stability. Money is the route to fulfillment (as opposed to evil).
I’d beg to differ on both counts actually. I most certainly don’t believe money is the route of (or to) all evil. That’s ridiculous. But on the other hand, money can bring with it so many problems that it will happily provide for you an early death. Stress, stress and more stress! Chained to the work desk for 60 hours a week. Then chained to the cell phone for a further 30 hours, week in and week out! The joys!
Now, let’s get back to the theme of the plot. The plot has thickened nicely, but we need to step back and take a further look from the exterior to get a clearer picture.
Delaying the real world…
Okay, so we’ve established that for many of us, although not all, that the “real” world is, or can be, a bit of a horror of a place. Having your own kids can be a wonderful thing, so sure – that’s fine. Marriage can be super, but at the same time, it can be a total nightmare. Erm, ask me!!
Hey, I’ll tell you what, I’m now 45 years of age. I went to college in the United Kingdom, then attended University. I spent 6 years at this level of academia. If I could do it over and over and over and over again, I would do it, without a moment’s hesitation! There’s only one other thing that I would swap my years of academia with…
Travel! I would travel. I would find a country that I love to live in and I would settle in that country. I would not concern myself with a high flying career. I would not concern myself with the big house. I would not worry about the lack of a fancy car in the drive. I would not worry about what the neighbors thought of me. No, it’s not for me. Not now anyway. I thought it was, but I was totally and utterly wrong!
I now live in the Philippines. I’ve spent the last 3 years of my life living in Kuching, in South East Asia. In that time I’ve visited a number of places in this part of the world. I have no car. I don’t own my own house. I don’t worry about planning holidays each year – why would I? My whole life feels like it’s a holiday.
Now it’s your turn.
Think it through.
Are you sure, very very sure, that you want the high flying career? Do you want to be shouldered with debt for the next 25 to 30 years? Do you want to be stressed out for 5 (perhaps even 7) days a week because of your job?
Or, perhaps you’d prefer to delay the “real” world?
Perhaps delaying the “real” world is in fact reality in itself. Perhaps the “real” world for you is all about ditching the stresses and strains of the “real” world in favor of a life of quality, a life of fulfillment and happiness.
It’s your call and its never too late to undo the damage that’s been done by the “real” world!