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I had never thought about what my dream engagement ring would be. You know, no point putting the cart before the horse, right?

Over brunch one day in the summer, my late 20’s friend told me that her dream engagement ring would ideally be a rough cut diamond, which I thought was quite representative of her chic yet down-to-earth style.  She then asked me what my dream engagement ring would be.  I had never thought about what my dream engagement ring would be.  Either I was too busy wanting an engagement ring with my long term relationship with my ex (seriously, I was so desperate for one that a ring pop probably would have done) or I was not even thinking about it at all because I was single.  You know, no point putting the cart before the horse, right?

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Dream Engagement Rings: A Friend?

One benefit to having a dream engagement ring is that.. well… the bride will be happy with their ring and may be more likely to say “yes” (haha).  Other women will compare your ring with theirs and secretly judge you for the style, cut, and colour of your ring.

Other than these two reasons, I don’t see too much benefit with regards to selecting your own ring, but to each their own I guess!

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Unless you have a wonderful angel like Paul Walker to saunter into the jewellery store that you are looking at to buy you your $10,000 engagement ring because your fiancee is in the military, sometimes these expectations for a certain dollar-spend on a ring doesn’t seem like “love” to me.

Or Foe?

At the same time, it makes me think that expectations on something that is supposed to be romantic makes it… well… less romantic.  The gesture of a person who is in love with you to save up their money, sacrifice, be diligent, and to want to make you happy by spending their hard earned money on a ring for you, to ask for your hand in marriage, is already sexy enough.  When you have expectations and are unhappy with the choice, or you ask for a certain style or carat or cut, I can’t seem to feel like it is demanding, or ungrateful, or insert-other-adjective-here.

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That being said, I have had friend-couples who have done both.  One guy proposed with a custom made design and she loved it.  I think it’s very romantic when someone knows you so well and knows a style that you would like.  The other guy asked for her opinion on rings, looking at the Tiffany website and proposed a few months later with a style that was similar to the one she wanted.  Both were happy.  I guess it depends on the individual though.

My “dream” Engagement Ring

Well, to answer my friends question, I did a little looking around and donned my crow outfit for all things shiny and feel that the Tiffany Novo would be my dream ring.  It’s so dainty and delicate.

Although lots of women desire a Tiffany ring, the resale value of diamond rings doesn’t justify the added price tag for the “Tiffany” brand.  Ideally, it would be something that is ethical, but it wouldn’t have to be Tiffany of course.  Though I’m a big fan of the colour of the box.

One day, while I was procrastinating from studying, I downloaded the Tiffany Ring app (yes, can you believe that there is one?) where it transposes the ring on your fingers after you take a picture of your hand.  Needless to say, I felt sheepish procrastinating with that app and felt sheepish to have that app int he first place, hence I deleted it.  The app made my fingers look like fat sausages.

If you’d like to feel like a total crow, have a look at a Glamour article on 30 uber sparkly engagement rings.  Some of these rings are so excessive and unattainable (you know, unless you have $100,000 lying around) it might give you a good laugh (or a case of wanting to keep up with the Jones’- you decide).

Readers, what do you think about expectations or preferences for engagement rings styles and types?  Do you think this is excessive?

Article comments

Lisa says:

My husband proposed when I was 23. I believe my engagement ring and wedding ring together was $325. When I bought his ring- it matches mine- I actually had a coupon to save the tax. It was 125. I always told him that everybody gets a ring, not everybody gets a great engagement story. That’s what I got. It worked for us. Our rings sit in the jewelry box. He is in construction and I’m allergic to metal, so neither of us wear our rings. I don’t need a ring to tell me I’m married, and I trust him the same. Our whole wedding was less than $2000, and I wouldn’t change a thing. It’s only one day, we have the rest of our lives to spend money together.

Marvin says:

My wife is still waiting on her dream ring. Her engagement and wedding ring all cost under $500. We made the decision to wait until we were more financially stable until going all in for a ring and as years passed it turned out that her dream ring kept getting put on the back burner.

Dayle says:

I do think that the whole “minimum-spend” thing is silly… I also think going into debt for a ring or any jewlery is unacceptable. I was married in my early 20’s, didn’t work out…but in any case, I believe the ring cost $199… It didn’t bother me at the time and it still doesn’t now. It’s the thought that counts, and we had no money at the time. Now that I am “kinda” older (I’m 30)…if I ever meet someone and get married again, I would probably wear a more expensive ring just because it’s easier to do so when you’re in your 30’s… I would never want my partner to go into debt for a ring, and I also don’t think I would want to pick it out, I’d like to be surprised. Good post!

Young says:

@Dayle- Everything is more expensive in your 30’s! darn lifestyle inflation…

Dayle says:

This is so true!

SST says:

Diamonds are a wholly manipulated and controlled market, and jewelry is very heavily marked-up, so no matter what ring you buy, you are getting ripped off. Emotions are easily bought.

My spouse managed a high-end jewelry store for a year.
Before she left we bought her a ring, with discount, for $7,000.
Same ring, six years later, retails for over $14,000.
She loves the ring and I love the “investment”.

That being said, re-read the first sentence.

BeachBoy says:

We all know it, but unless you want to buy a synthetic diamond, you have little choice but to pay the huge markup.

SST says:

There’s naked-eye differences between “synthetic” and “real” diamonds??
Heck, they even make diamonds out of dead people!

Wanting a “real” diamond simply because it’s “natural” is akin to wanting only brand name merchandise.

The whole concept truly is archaic.

CNJ says:

I know I’m pretty much in the minority here, but my engagement ring cost less than $2,000 and my now-husband and I bought it together. This is the man I was planning to spend my life in partnership with… seemed odd to expect him to indebt himself for a simple ring. (We equally didn’t go into debt for our wedding – and both the wedding and the ring were/are beautiful!) Some women get caught up in status, greed and consumerism but I’d pick a happy marriage over those any day 🙂

Joe says:

Heh heh heh, you should have posted the picture with the ring. All I can say is thank goodness my wife doesn’t like jewelry. Her ring is just a tiny diamond and it’s sitting in the safe.

BeachBoy says:

My girlfriend and I will likely not get married but will be engaged. So I have to buy a uber nice ring to compensate 😉
I really hate every ring that has prongs (like the one you posted) so for me it’s a tension set ring or nothing. W eboth like very pure design and modenr architecture and furniture, the prongs are really old school for us.
You can check for nice tension set Kretchmer or Gelin & Abaci.. One problem with tension set is that you need a high grade diamond so it makes everything very expensive.

Young says:

@BB- Interesting, I have not heard of tension set rings!

Cassie says:

I’ve definitely been the crow gravitating to sparkly things before, so no judgement here 😉 I figured if one day a guy was going to ask me what I liked, I may as well have an idea. Fast forward to now and my fiance didn’t actually ask what I liked, so I suppose it was a bit of an exercise in futility. He spent 5 months researching and designing rings before settling on the one he bought… which was also most identical to the ones I had been gravitating towards anyway! Long winded answer for a short one I suppose: preferences are okay, expectations are not.

Young says:

@Cassie- Awe wow! That’s amazing that he knows what you like!