How to Split Finances With Your Partner

The topic of how to split finances with your significant other has been discussed many times before by other personal finance bloggers and also by myself.  There are different ways to split household expenses and one way might work well for one couple and another way may be difficult to work around.  Additionally there are other factors to consider, like is someone going to drop their income drastically (e.g. become a stay at home parent), or is there unequal income?

One thing is for sure though, is that it is of utmost importance to have the money talk before the marriage talk.  Because once you start wedding planning there is ‘no going back' (oftentimes anyways) and couples get wrapped up in wedding planning that they forget what is most important- working out the day-to-day marriage after the big celebration.

Here are some ways to split your money with your honey:

1) Split It Right Down the Middle

Splitting everything 50/50 (shelter, groceries, electricity) is common for a lot of couples, and something I did in my last relationship.  We split everything in half, it didn't matter whether I was a student and worked part-time or whether he worked full-time and became a student.  We did have a joint account that we also contributed a set amount (same amount) every month.  I wrote a piece on why equality in relationships and finances might not work for everyone because it did not work for me.  This is probably the easiest method to do with the least amount of calculation.

How to Split Finances With Your Partner2) Split Different Expenses

Some people have separate accounts but different expenses are assigned to a particular partner.  Just like one partner would do the laundry and the other does the day-to-day cooking, one partner would pay for the rent/ mortgage while the other focused on joint retirement savings or the cable television.  I know a few couples who do it like this and they don't bother with a joint account.  However, because they are married and do not have a marriage agreement, everything after marriage is considered joint property anyway.

3) Joint Accounts with Percentage Contribution

As I discussed earlier in a post about the pros and cons of joint accounts, there are many different ways to create a joint account.  This is the way that my fiancee (I can't believe I am using that word!!!) and I plan to do after marriage.  We earn different amounts and we plan to contribute X% of our income per month to the joint account (and this percentage can vary depending on our expenses, need for savings e.g. need for RESPs if/when we have children).

4) Joint Account with Allocation of Expected Expenses

Additionally, another way that may be more equitable that a straight 50/50 split is the calculation of the expenses needed for the month.  Let's say for example it costs $3000 a month.  Let's say partner A makes $50,000 a year and partner B makes $100,000 a year.  Total income is $150,000.  Partner A would pay 1/3 of the $3000 a month and partner B would pay 2/3 of the $3000 a month.  This is similar to the above method but not exactly the same.

5) Merge it All Together

Many people (more traditionally) merge it all together in one pot.  Some people say it is better because it facilitates communication about your money and promotes teamwork, and others who I spoke to and have gone through a divorce regretted the decision.  Like I stated earlier, what works for some might not work for others and it is dependent on the individual couple.  If there are different spending habits within the couple, this may be a bit more difficult and cause more conflict.

6) Merge Most of It Together and Take Out Me-Money

Last but not least, an increasingly popular option is to merge it all together in a joint account and take out $100 or $200 of spending money (for example) a month to your personal account.  This is a good option for those who want to keep a bit of privacy in case you want to get a present for the other for their birthday and don't want them to see!

As you note from the above, there are a multitude of ways to split finances with your partner.  Which way (1-6) do you use?

4 Comments

  1. Fred on April 18, 2016 at 2:44 pm

    We use #3 and use it for any and all family expenses (split into different accounts for different spending area, like monthly expenses (grocery, gas, public transportation, insurance, etc…), car repairs, travel, medical, etc…

    We contribute according to our means but not 100 % proportionate to our salary. The rest we each can spend/save however we like. We’ve been using this for some time and feel that even though it’s not a perfect science, it’s much easier than splitting bills between us. Plus everything is completely automated now with automatic transfers every pay and recurring monthly expenses all timed for the first of the month.

    It’s been extremely beneficial to my girlfriend who was more stressed with everything that had to do with money. The chance for any “surprise” bills that we can’t handle is now much smaller.



  2. Financial Slacker on April 18, 2016 at 3:54 pm

    We throw everything together. But we have been married for 18 years, so that may not be the same for everyone else.

    We actually started combining everything before we were married, but once we figured out that we were going to stay together.

    Ms. Financial Slacker is more disciplined and better at paying bills than me. She didn’t much care for my approach which was to throw it in the drawer and hope I remembered to pull it out and pay it before it was due.

    So she took over paying all the bills.



  3. Lee on July 20, 2016 at 3:06 pm

    #5. We hummed and hawed over what to do, but since we are both equally good savers, and we got some sage advice from a parent (who happened to be on their 2nd marriage, with experience with several of these options AND was also a family law lawyer…) that working as a team financially has the best outcome for marriage success. It makes things really simple – and if one of us gets a big bonus, or is on a financial leave – we both bear the celebration and the challenge. It has also allowed us to strategize saving to be most tax-effective. Not for everyone, but adding the “financial team” aspect to our relationship makes us feel stronger. It would be messy if we broke up, but considering everything is 50/50 anyway, no messier than other approaches.



  4. Young on July 20, 2016 at 11:09 pm

    @Lee- Great to know what a family law lawyer suggests!! Sometimes I feel guilty as for us it’s uneven (my fiancee makes more than I do) but reading things like this makes me feel better. 🙂



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