So with my worries for my future expiring ovaries (haha) I thought I might as well give it a whirl. Vancouver is notorious for being a difficult-to-date city because the women are all fiercely independent and the men tend to be standoffish and aloof. Just check out this now infamous article titled “Do Vancouver Men Suck?” in Vancouver Magazine.
In between finishing up school and working, it’s quite difficult to go out and meet people with my current lifestyle. So I thought why not check out what’s available online, via my favourite communication modality, the World Wide Web, aka the Internets.
Yes, I have resorted to finding “love” online LOL since the terribly heart breaking break up. I have tried a variety of modalities, from eharmony, match.com, and plenty of fish. The only ones I haven’t tried are OK Cupid and Craigslist lol. I don’t think I will do Craigslist though, though I have heard of some friends of friends meeting their significant others on the online classifieds.
I have heard good success stories (meaning long term relationships and even marriage) from eharmony and plenty of fish, but not really from match.com.
Although I haven’t had much success so far, I have met a number of guys. Some have been not my type, some have been nice, some seem perverted, and some seemed to be non-commital.
Here’s a break down of the two major paying websites and the free website (plenty of fish) which started it roots, in of all places, Vancouver.
The cost is $34.99 or so per month and if you purchase it in bundles (e.g. a few months at a time) it is cheaper. It is free to subscribe and scope out people but to actually chat with people, you have to subscribe and pay. I met a number of guys on this site (yes, I was on a dating rampage) but I found that most guys weren’t my type when I met them in person I guess. They also say you are 97% compatible with so-and-so but I have no idea how they match the compatibility because it seems like a load of crap. The tricky thing is that they automatically subscribe you for another month if you don’t click on a button that tells them you don’t want to be auto-billed.
eHarmony is more expensive than match.com (try about double the price). For a three month subscription it is about $120 (and that’s with a coupon code I found lol). You have to answer a questionnaire that takes a long time to answer but I find that the matches they “matched me up” with include people with similar interests to me and who seemed like they were the male version of me. People on this site tend to be more serious-relationship minded. I have lot of friends who seemed to have really “met their match” on eharmony and seem very compatible. The thing is you don’t get to search around and look for people. Eharmony does the picking and sends you a few (or none) daily depending on how stringent your criteria are. Like, dating someone from California is out of the question for me, I’m sorry lol.
Plenty of Fish
Finally the free one that gets all the buzz. The only downside to plenty of fish is that there are a lot of creepy people on here and you’re going to get bombarded with creepy messages. However, there are some nice people on here and I know two friends who have met some great guys who they are going out with now/ married to on here. The other downside is that people who are not even log in or registered on POF can creep on your pictures and your profile haha.
Although this is a small sample size/ experiment, and I’ve only been at this for a few months, I think it still depends on how picky you are and what you’re looking for. According to Your Tango, paying is more effective. With Plenty of Fish you get much more selection but you have to weed out the people much more because of the volume of people. I think if you’re on the better looking scale (lol, like both of my friends who have found great guys from it), you might stand a better chance because no one bothers to read what you write, to be honest. People who are on paying websites (like match.com or eharmony) tend to be more serious about relationships rather than hooking up.
Single Readers (or in-relationship-readers) have you tried any of these? Do you think paying for online dating is worth it?